What’s with people and their lack of communicating? Folks will spend every free moment on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, but become completely discombobulated when they are faced with responding to a direct email or having an actual conversation with someone.
Today, we carry our phones with us wherever we go and people call, text, and email at random throughout the day. We can choose to not respond to a call until we are free to talk. With an email, we have the same choice; it will remain in our inbox waiting for a reply. Just like someone standing at your front door, waiting for you to let them in.
I can understand people are busy. I can understand you think it’s okay to wait a few days to respond to me. But to not respond at all…ever…to a fellow human who is attempting to communicate with you is soooooo inconsiderate and just plain r.u.d.e.
There have been several times when I’ve discovered a new singer (maybe not really new, but new to me) online and went to their website to have a listen. With one particular singer, I found her website, listened to one track and said, “Oh, she’s pretty good and her band is hot!” I ordered her new release from CD Baby.
I was excited when it came in the mail and thoroughly enjoyed the whole album. I loved it so much that I took the time to send an email to her to tell her how much I loved the album, her voice, and her music. Did she respond to my email? Hell, no.
Then, there was the local singer I discovered a few years ago and, same thing, I wrote her telling her I loved her voice and her music. Her response: silence.
What’s up with that?! I make a heartfelt attempt to communicate with a fellow spirit on the path and said spirit doesn’t have the common human decency to say hello and thank you?!
Now, these are not famous singers with millions of fans emailing them every day. These are my peers, out there performing and recording in hopes of reaching and connecting with others. Then again, maybe not.
Personally, if someone buys my music and is moved enough to take the time to email me, we are friends for life! That, to me, is a true connection. There is value in that; especially if it comes from another singer or musician.
I don’t get it. It seems to be more and more common for people to just not respond to emails. Truth be told, there have been times in the past when I’ve been guilty myself. With some people — you know those people who, just the thought of them leaves you consumed with anger. But, somewhere along the path, I realized that it’s healthier for me to call or email and say what I really feel than to try to ignore them and let resentment fester. I realized that my anger is my issue and they are just being who they are – which they have every right to be.
So now, I always respond to emails. I also include my phone number in case they want to continue the conversation. If it’s someone I don’t particularly care for or see eye-to-eye with, I will still acknowledge their communication. Even if it’s only this:
Dear so-and-so,
Thanks for your email. Fuck you; you’re an idiot 🙂
Have a fabulous day!
Namaste and best regards,
Dee